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Reading & Studying – Struggling To Understand Something

Have you ever wondered or asked yourself this….. how can someone next to you understand something while you DONT understand that thing ??

Well, the problem might be caused by 4 reasons

Reason number 1.
Maybe you are imagining that thing INCORRECTLY. Maybe you’re OVER-IMAGINING it or maybe you are UNDER-IMAGINING it. When you over-imagine something you are mistakenly thinking that it can do MUCH MORE, but in fact that thing might be meant to do ONLY A LITTLE BIT, on the other hand when you under-imagine something you are mistakenly assuming it can do VERY LITTLE, but in fact that thing might be able to do MUCH MORE. Sometimes you might find that you are imagining that thing in an UP-SIDE-DOWN manner !! Try other ways of imagining it. Sometimes you have to turn your mind around and think about something in a Wrong way deliberately !! Sometimes when you think of something in up-side-down style you might discover that it works much better for you when it is up-side-down… yes, that’s True !!! If you were thinking about something in an up-side-down style, when you turn it up-side-down again it will now become upright and it would therefore be fixed and work perfectly again.

Reason number 2.
Maybe you are NOT positively INTERESTED in discovering that thing. If you are positively interested in discovering something, you will keep turning it around and checking it in many different styles and in many different ways, you will use heuristics to try all the possible choices until you discover how it is working. But if you are NOT positively interested in that thing, you will only try it for 3 times and you will give up quickly before you even try it in the other ways. Try to be more interested, if it gets difficult then put MORE ENERGY…. increase your amount of interest in it and FIGHT HARDER with it until YOU WIN. Sooner or later you will win ……. yes YOU WILL WIN if you put more and more energy !!

Reason number 3.
Maybe you are FORGETTING a lot of information about that thing… this problem is related to the previous problem above (number .2) because if you forget a lot of information about something then it might be that you were NOT really positively interested in discovering that thing. Try to remember as much information as possible by head, try to read once and then committ what you’ve just heard into your memory, cram it into your memory as soon as you hear it first time and then see if you can clearly remember, repeat over and over for a couple of times and practice to READ ONCE FIRST-TIME and to REMEMBER what you’ve just read in your head.

Reason number 4.
Maybe the teacher does NOT know how to explain that thing to you, but if the teacher has tried many times using different styles and different words then maybe you are Not asking him any questions or maybe you’re Not asking enough questions… so the teacher ends up having to guess all the time where your mind is or he is guessing all the time what your mind is imagining… and he might be wrong in his guessing about where your imagination is going, so express your imagination to the teacher openly, even if it’s a wrong imagination, ask the teacher lots of questions immediately even in the beginning so that he can follow your mind perfectly and so that he can see your understanding clearly even if you had the wrong understanding in the beginning, at least in that way he will correct your imagination early if it was a wrong imagination.

Another very powerful thing you can do is to ASK THE SIX FUNDAMENTAL QUESTIONS … and try to answer each question with a reasonable answer

1. WHAT is this thing called ?
2. WHEN do I need to use this thing ?
3. HOW do I use this thing ?

4. WHERE do I use this thing ?
Sometimes it is ONLY ONE place where you can USE this thing and the mistake you’re committing is that you’re thinking that it can be used in MANY OTHER places ! Other times the thing can be used/applied in MANY PLACES and you’re committing the mistake of thinking that it applies to ONLY ONE PLACE

5. WHY do I use this thing ?
6. WHO uses this thing ?

 

Reading & Studying – Override

Some of the things that you try to study or learn can appear to be so confusing and difficult! The reason can be something called “overriding”. For instance, a TV can have a button on it which you can use to switch it on. But you may find that there is ALSO a remote control. The remote control will also have a button which can be used to switch the TV on ! This means there is TWO PLACES where the TV can be switched on. This also means that one of the buttons can OVERRIDE the other one. For instance, the button on the remote control can OVERRIDE the button on the TV. If you were reading a book about that TV, you are probably going to be confused each time the book talks about how to switch on the TV. The book is always going to talk about switching on the TV in two ways. It is going to first tell you how to switch on the TV USING THE BUTTON ON IT, and then it is going to go back and talk about how to switch on the TV USING THE REMOTE CONTROL and if you did NOT read carefully and realize that there is TWO WAYS of switching the TV on, you are probably going to get confused because the book will appear to be repeating the same thing, but talking in different ways about the SAME THING !!

Reading & Studying – Zooming in and Out

Have you ever tried to study something new and then find TOO MANY BOOKS which ALL talk very differently about the subject? The answer is zooming. Every writer has his OWN FEELINGS about what he thinks is NECESSARY TO KNOW. Other writers may NOT think the same way. Some writers feel that talking about 7 things will be ENOUGH, while other writers will go and talk about 12 things that they can think of concerning the same subject. So next time when you DON’T quite understand why books talk differently about the same thing, just remember that it is because each writer has his own feelings about the subject. What must you do then? Whose book must you follow? Which book is right and which book is wrong? Well, YOU ALSO HAVE YOUR OWN FEELINGS, just go through ALL of the books quickly and then DECIDE for yourself what YOU think is NECESSARY FOR YOU TO KNOW and write your own personal notes about the subject. This will save you a lot of time and frustration. You will also feel more satisfied at the end of the day. Sometimes a thing can be difficult and frustrating because you just Never get to understand what the writer is saying. This can happen because of a problem which I call “Zooming”. Don’t Zoom in too much inside the book! You have to keep in mind that a book is always organized in a certain way, especially if it’s a long and technical book. A book will normally have a Cover Title on the outside, then Chapters, then Sections/Headings, then Paragraphs.

You know, I’ve seen some people who can finish a 200 page book but you find that they Don’t even remember the Name of the outer cover of the Book!! Sometimes people rush to read the paragraphs in a page before they even check carefully what SECTION of the book they are in! This can be a very frustrating mistake! DON’T rush to complete a paragraph if you Don’t even know/remember what section of the book you’re currently in. You have to know and remember Where You Are in the book. This will allow you to see the difference between two paragraphs that both seem to be saying the SAME thing and frustrating/confusing a lot of people because they Can’t figure out what’s so different between the two paragraphs. Sometimes the hidden difference between two paragraphs is the headings or section titles at the top of each paragraph!!

 

Everything relates to another

There are relationships/dependencies between everything in life. Example: Electronics is related to Chemistry, Electronics is also related to Music, Electronics is also related to Algebra & Arithmetic & Geometry & Trigonometry. Musical Chords and Scales are related to One Another. Be smart, play around in the AREA where two things meet. You will discover a lot of interesting viewpoints and aspects about the two things. You may find that you are able to COMPLETELY change one thing by modifying only its DEPENDENCIES or by fiddling around with the circumstances under which it works/runs. Sometimes when you keep changing the things that are surrounding something, you could end up changing that thing itself completely because it actually depends on those things that are surrounding it !! You can make the engine of a car to run at super-performance speed by just changing the petrol/fuel that the engine uses !

Taking advice from other people first is a CLEVER thing to do

This is an interesting thing that I discovered when I was working with a team of developers in Johannesburg in 2001. What I discovered is this…. it is very important to know how to handle unexpected situations and also how to handle accidental events… When you realize that something can lead to an accident or a sudden bad event, first you must learn to TAKE THE ADVICE of OTHER people FIRST… learn to STOP and first look at the advice from other people FIRST, after you take a look at their advice, if you see that they were WRONG in their advice you can then simply ignore their advice and you can just continue to do it your way… at least this way if they were RIGHT then you still had a chance to use their advice because you stopped to have a look at their advice. But if you ignore their advice and you blindly go ahead with your way, then you taking the risk of FAILING alone !!! If their advice was RIGHT… then you did NOT take a look at their advice first, so if you are WRONG in your way then it means you LOST a chance to avoid that trouble because you ignored their advice totally and if you are WRONG in doing things your way then you can NO LONGER go back to use their advice because it will be too late… you will have already SUFFERED the trouble because you decided to use your own way BEFORE checking the advice from other people first !! So it is ALWAYS clever to STOP and take a look at other people’s advice FIRST…. after that you still have a chance to CONTINUE with your way if you feel that they are ALL WRONG with their advice… yes you still have a chance to CONTINUE with your way, and if you find out from their advice that YOU WERE WRONG with your way, you still have a chance to FIX YOUR WRONG way and AVOID THE TROUBLE…. however, if you ALWAYS take your own way… the day when you are WRONG … you will have NO chance to FIX your wrong way because you NEVER take a look at other people’s advice FIRST !! So basically there’s NOTHING you lose if you STOP and CHECK other people’s advice first… you can STILL continue to do what you were already doing, but if you NEVER check other people’s advice first then it is STUPID because if you are WRONG then you have NO chance to use their advice anymore, you can NO LONGER use their advice if you are in the trouble already.

Assuming your choices are always the best

Yes, this is another interesting one. You know when you think something is cool, don’t quickly assume that your close friends see it in the same way. Just because someone is your close friend, it doesn’t mean that what you think is cool and nice will be “cool & nice” to him too. Keep in mind that he’s a different human being. He is NOT in your heart or in your body. He does NOT feel things the same way that you do. Be moderate about your feelings. Don’t criticize something openly when you are with him (or her).You might hurt him quietly if you do that! Always make sure that he is also thinking the same way about that thing before you quickly dismiss it or talk badly about it. Ask him what he feels about the thing first, then you will know how to express yourself accordingly. Don’t think that your friends are inside of you, Even if they are your very close friends. A very hot and exciting topic can quickly turn into a sour debate if you Don’t check carefully how you throw your words around. Remember: Your friends are NOT YOU !! They are SEPARATE Human Being and they are THEMSELVES !

Relationship Problems and Personal Strongholds

These two things are very closely related. I’ve discovered that where there is a BIG problem in a relationship, the cause of the problem is always Personal Strongholds. A personal stronghold is something BAD in your life that you have been hiding since you were born. It is normally NOT easy to realize that you have a personal stronghold because since you were born, you have grown and seen the world in a certain way. The place where you grew up and the people that were around you normally help you to build up this bad stronghold. When you are matured and old enough, you then judge things based on what you’ve known to be right and wrong when you grew up. This means you are judging things based on your Personal Stronghold. A relationship is a friendship. You can have a relationship between mother and child or between mother and father or between father and child or you can even see another example of a relationship between a child and another child. Another example of a relationship is a friendship between a girl and a boy. There are many other kinds of relationships. I want to talk about the relationship between a boy and a girl, but what I will say will apply to ALL the other relationships. When a relationship is about to break or fail, normally there will be a grudge or an argument. In the argument, both partners are NOT aware of the fact that they are judging each other. They are NOT even aware of the fact that they are judging each other based on their Personal Strongholds. For example, the girl thinks that the boy is wrong but she does NOT realize that the boy is only “wrong according to her strongholds”. The boy then fights back and argues harshly about how “right” he is. But he also does NOT realize that he is only “right according to his personal stronghold”. Love is a very tricky and unpredictable thing. Some people say love is the strongest feeling they’ve ever felt. They don’t realize that “strongholds” are a stronger feeling than love, because love CANNOT break strongholds, but strongholds CAN break love. It is very difficult to let go of your strongholds. To many people, it is actually impossible. But how does one let go of his strongholds? That’s a very important question. If you want to let go of your strongholds, you MUST take interest your partner’s strongholds. I know it sounds crazy but that’s true!! You MUST take interest in your partner’s strongholds. If you have a boyfriend and his stronghold is soccer and rugby, then you must start watching soccer and take interest in rugby too. If you DON’T want to watch soccer or if it irritates you, then ONE day this stronghold will tear both of you apart, because when the day comes, you will tell him how “useless” soccer is to you, but it is very “useful and enjoyable” to him, so you CAN’T say that !!! And that’s the time when you will see your strongholds coming out, but you are NOT aware of the fact that you are releasing your strongholds, and both of you are gonna fight & argue until you separate. If you take interest in your partner’s strongholds, then he MUST take interest in your strongholds too, and that’s fair. In this way both of you are gonna be able to hide your strongholds so that they don’t get released badly. In fact, when you take interest in your partner’s strongholds, you will ultimately find that there is NO STRONGHOLDS between the two of you because each one MUST take full interest in the other’s strongholds. This way NONE of you can be selfish or jealous or have a bad attitude towards the other. If you are a man, when your wife cooks, stand up and learn from her how to cook. Help her to cook. When she’s washing clothes, stand up and walk to her. Watch her closely when she’s washing clothes. Be with her. Talk to her while she’s doing it. Walk with her when she goes outside to hang the clothes. Spend as much time CLOSE to her as possible while she’s doing something. Try to help her to do that thing, even if it is a woman’s job! By the way, there is NO more “women jobs” and “men jobs”. Every piece of work that a woman can do is also possible to be done by a man. If you are a woman, stand close to your man when he is fixing the car. Ask him questions about everything you see in the engine. Ask him anything. Stand close and watch with interest. Hand him the tools that he uses. Help him to fix the car. Don’t worry about the oils on his clothes or the grease on his body. Don’t go away quickly and don’t lose interest in what he is doing. I can guarantee you that ON THAT SAME DAY, he will quickly realize how “loving” and “adorable” you are. When it comes back to you, it will be pure love. All you do is to take full interest in what he’s doing and what you will receive back is PURE LOVE. Don’t try to give love to your partner if you want him to love you back. Keep away from “trying to love someone”. Just take full interest in him or her, whatever she’s doing or he’s doing, and you will be surprised by what comes back to you. Each time you take interest in your partner’s things, you will get love in return and it will happen instantly on the same day. You CAN easily avoid losing your partner if you use these tricks!!

Are your FRIENDS people who CLICK with you ?

if you’re involved in the dangerous and self-defeating practice of PICKING PEOPLE who ACT, BEHAVE, LIVE and LOOK LIKE YOU, you are going to become a sorry-ass LOSER. your ENTIRE future depends on how strong the CONTRAST is between YOUR PERSONALITY and the PERSONALITIES of those you associate with. have you ever heard this saying “show me a man’s 3 best friends and i will tell you what his future looks like” ?? . . it is SO TRUE ! the BIGGEST set back in your life is going to be brought on by people closest to you . . your closest friends ! these people, while they are the easiest thing for you to put your shoulder on in times of grief, they can ironically also become your GREATEST weakness and in 9 out of 10 cases they determine YOUR DESTINY ! but it is NOT so much the FRIENDS, but rather the TYPE of people they are and how LENIENT and ACCOMMODATING they are with you when you fuck up ! the MORE lenient and accommodating they are with your fuck ups the MORE likely they are going to lead you astray or rather let me say they are going to let you SINK into a shit-hole without warning you ! if you associate with people who CLICK with you, you’re NOT going to GROW . . you’re going to STAGNATE inside a COMFORT ZONE with DAILY EXCUSES, PROCRASTINATION, smoking weed, etc . . and becuz the people you’ve picked are just LIKE YOU, they’re going to DO NOTHING to prevent you from falling into a state of imminent self-destruction ! imagine if your piano teacher at school was someone who AGREED with YOU on your FALSE and USELESS BELIEF that YOU HAVE NO TALENT THEREFORE YOU CANNOT PLAY A PIANO because unlike other people **YOU** JUST DON’T HAVE IT (the talent or whatever!!) WITHIN YOU . . then NO ONE in the whole world would EVER KNOW how to PLAY A PIANO ever ! it is when you start to HIT THE WRONG keys and notes on the piano keyboard that you **BEGIN to DEVELOP** THE TALENT ! There is **NO ONE** who came into this planet WITH A TALENT to play a piano or a TALENT to do ANYTHING whatsoever !! im **NOT** going to say this again in the future . . therefore, when you hang out with people who ACT, BEHAVE, LIVE and LOOK LIKE YOU, they are going to give you ALL THE REASON and JUSTIFICATION to support your SORRY-ASS EXCUSES, PROCRASTINATION and all the long-term chronic diseases that eventually trouble everyone for decades, you’ll be in a constant state of self-doubt . . “im NOT ready for a relationship”, “im NOT ready for marriage”, “im NOT ready to have children”, “im NOT ready to make a presentation”, “i DONT have the skill, wara-wara”, “i DONT wonna read a long book”, “im NOT good with Maths/Physics”, every friggen idea in your life is going to circle around the notion of “i DONT..i DONT..i DONT..i DONT”  . . and the ONLY comfort you will find will come from the WRONG type of friends ! because you’ve picked these broke-ass losers BASED on how well they match **YOUR CHARACTER** (“i DONT..i DONT..i DONT”), as if they are some fucking mirrors or shadows of you . . and PRECISELY becuz they’re JUST LIKE YOU . . they’re FUCKING AFRAID of what YOU’RE AFRAID of doing . . so they’re gonna serve the purpose of HOGGING you DOWN like an albatross and keeping you from GETTING YOUR ASS up and taking the ROAD to SUCCESS . . . so says Tebogo Motlhale !

The MOST Important Skill in Life

So WHAT is it ?? What is the MOST CRITICAL skill in Life ?

Balancing
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You must be able to maintain balance in most of your daily activities and in almost anything you do. Balancing is a NON-NEGOTIABLE skill in life. Everything in the world is balanced. Anything that’s NOT balanced will end in destruction. The universe is balanced. The human body requires perfect balance of all the chemicals in it, in order for it to survive. Too much blood in the body is bad, too little blood is also bad, too much fat or sugar in the body is bad, too little fat/sugar is also just as bad. The engine of a car and all it’s components must be balanced, otherwise something on the car will be put under severe stress/pressure and it will break sooner or later. All the electrical components that make up a Radio, TV, Computer, CD Player and so on must be balanced amongst each other in order for the device to function and work together properly. If there is too much power going into one component that is going to cause the component to overheat and it would soon blow apart ; too little power is also just as bad, the device will Not function as expected, it will tend to cut off periodically and irritate its owner. All the appliances in your house (Stove, Toaster, Oven, etc) must be balanced. Too much of something or too little of something will lead to an imbalance, which becomes a serious problem after a short while , and eventually leads to damage and self-destruction. If there was ONE big thing that I would advise you to learn, that would be learning to BALANCE everything in your life ! If you cannot balance things, you will NOT last very long on anything you try in your life.

 

Reading & Studying – Struggling To Understand Something

Reading & Studying – Struggling To Understand Something

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Have you ever wondered or asked yourself this….. how can someone next to you understand something while you DONT understand that thing ??

Well, the problem might be caused by 4 reasons

 

Reason number 1.

Maybe you are imagining that thing INCORRECTLY. Maybe you’re OVER-IMAGINING it or maybe you are UNDER-IMAGINING it. When you over-imagine something you are mistakenly thinking that it can do MUCH MORE, but in fact that thing might be meant to do ONLY A LITTLE BIT, on the other hand when you under-imagine something you are mistakenly assuming it can do VERY LITTLE, but in fact that thing might be able to do MUCH MORE. Sometimes you might find that you are imagining that thing in an UP-SIDE-DOWN manner !!  Try other ways of imagining it. Sometimes you have to turn your mind around and think about something in a Wrong way deliberately !!  Sometimes when you think of something in up-side-down style you might discover that it works much better for you when it is up-side-down…  yes, that’s True !!!   If you were thinking about something in an up-side-down style, when you turn it up-side-down again it will now become upright and it would therefore be fixed and work perfectly again.

 

Reason number 2.

Maybe you are NOT positively INTERESTED in discovering that thing. If you are positively interested in discovering something, you will keep turning it around and checking it in many different styles and in many different ways, you will use heuristics to try all the possible choices until you discover how it is working. But if you are NOT positively interested in that thing, you will only try it for 3 times and you will give up quickly before you even try it in the other ways. Try to be more interested, if it gets difficult then put MORE ENERGY….  increase your amount of interest in it and FIGHT HARDER with it until YOU WIN.  Sooner or later you will win ……. yes YOU WILL WIN if you put more and more energy !!

 

Reason number 3.

Maybe you are FORGETTING a lot of information about that thing… this problem is related to the previous problem above (number .2) because if you forget a lot of information about something then it might be that you were NOT really positively interested in discovering that thing. Try to remember as much information as possible by head, try to read once and then committ what you’ve just heard into your memory, cram it into your memory as soon as you hear it first time and then see if you can clearly remember, repeat over and over for a couple of times and practice to READ ONCE FIRST-TIME and to REMEMBER what you’ve just read in your head.

 

Reason number 4.

Maybe the teacher does NOT know how to explain that thing to you, but if the teacher has tried many times using different styles and different words then maybe you are Not asking him any questions or maybe you’re Not asking enough questions… so the teacher ends up having to guess all the time where your mind is or he is guessing all the time what your mind is imagining… and he might be wrong in his guessing about where your imagination is going, so express your imagination to the teacher openly, even if it’s a wrong imagination, ask the teacher lots of questions immediately even in the beginning so that he can follow your mind perfectly and so that he can see your understanding clearly even if you had the wrong understanding in the beginning, at least in that way he will correct your imagination early if it was a wrong imagination.

 

Another very powerful thing you can do is to ASK THE SIX FUNDAMENTAL QUESTIONS … and try to answer each question with a reasonable answer

 

  1. WHAT is this thing called ?
  2. WHEN do I need to use this thing ?
  3. HOW do I use this thing ?
  4. WHERE do I use this thing ?
  5. WHY do I use this thing ?
  6. WHO uses this thing ?